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This page has been created in loving memory and honor of Andrew "Tyler" Durham.  On August 19th 2006, we said goodbye to our son, brother, grandson, nephew, cousin, friend-an an angel here on earth.  In his 15 short years here on earth, he touched the lives of more people than most do in a lifetime!  He was a joy that filled the hearts and lives of so many.  He was/is a blessing from God to his mom and dad, a mentor for his younger brother, a devoted athelete and a best friend to so many.  Most importantly, he was a child of God!  He loved the Lord with all of his heart and soul! We truly believe that he was an angel here on earth, and was called home by the Father to be spared from the evil in this world.  He is missed so very much, but we know today he walks with his savior Jesus Christ, and is secured for eternity and forever at peace!  Our family chain has been broken for now, but soon it will be linked together again for eternity!! We long for him each and every minute of the day, but we always keep in the back of our minds that-He's only a breath away!!!

We love you ATD,

Everyone


          
    



" I am the resurrection and the life.  He who believes in me will live, even though he dies: and whoever lives and believes in me will never die."

John 11:25-26(NIV)









The Virtuous man, though he die before his time, will find rest.

Length of days is not what makes age honorable, nor number of years the true measure of life; understanding, this is man's gray hairs, untarnished life, this is ripe old age.  He has sought to please God, so God has loved him; as he lived among sinners, he has been taken up.

 

 

He has been carried off so that evil may not warp his understanding or treachery seduce his soul; for the fascination of evil throws the good into the shade, and the whirlwind of desire corrupts a simple heart.

Coming to perfection in so short a while, he achieved long life; his soul being pleasing to The Lord, who has taken him quickly from the wickedness around him.

Yet people look on, uncomprehending;

it does not enter their heads that grace and mercy await the chosen of The Lord, and protection, God's holy ones.

This is the word of The Lord!

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Psalms- Scripture for the broken!!!   / Erin Durham (mother)
Psalms 4:3  You can be sure of this: The Lord set apart the Godly for himself. 4:5   Offer sacrifices in the right spirit, and trust The Lord. 5:7   Because of your unfailing love, i can enter your house oh Lord. 5:11 But...  Continue >>
Seems like a long time   / Papa Bill (Papa)
and yet it seems like just yesterday my Tyler was here laughing, playing and being ever the wonderful grandson and person that everybody loved. I don't know the whys of everything but I do know how deeply I miss him. Today was a what I call a "H...  Continue >>
Isaiah 57:1   / Papa Bill (Papa)
My "Beautiful Boy" is weighing heavy on my mind this rainy day. I remember how protective he was of me and always showed me love and respect. I truly believe he wouild be he would be a sophmore at Carolina today and possibly a part of athle...  Continue >>
I Feel!   / Erin Durham (mother)
Tonight is hard. thoughts of you racing around in my mind and I try to grab on to one and I cant. Just like I couldnt grab onto you. I wonder if I had been there by your side that night as you were drifting away if I had been there and could hold you...  Continue >>
Hitting The Wall   / Papa Bill (Grandfather)
"Hitting the wall" is my term for experiencing the reality of Tyler's death all in an instant. The intervals of this event are seperated by more time than at first but it is still a very real experience. I can be lost in something a book mo...  Continue >>
Thoughts of you!  / Erin Durham (Mother)    Read >>
Tears Fall!  / Erin Durham (Mom)    Read >>
Priceless Memories  / Papa Bill (Grandfather)    Read >>
Priceless Memories  / Papa Bill (Grandfather)    Read >>
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Thoughts and Prayers  / Diane Jacques     Read >>
God's Word!!  / Erin Durham (Mom)    Read >>
Remembering / Thomas Dover (Friend)    Read >>
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His legacy
The release of "A Cross in His Pocket"  


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Cross in His Pocket, A: The Spiritual Journey of a Teenage Boy from Life into Eternal Life with the Lord Jesus Christ
Erin Melissa Durham
A Cross in His Pocket is an inspirational book for those who are struggling with the loss of a child. The death of your child is a devastating blow, a hole is cut from your heart, and you feel it, literally. It’s a hurt that cannot be described, only felt. Nothing will ever take away the pain and emptiness you will feel at some level for the rest of your life. Good memories will eventually bring smiles through the tears; regrets about what you could have done differently may creep up on you at times. It is a constant struggle. Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is a gift, a promise of eternal love and security, a hand that will reach out to you every time you fall to keep you from hitting rock bottom, an ever-present spirit that surrounds you like a warm, fuzzy blanket on the coldest winter day. I know that if I did not have the Lord Jesus Christ in my life, the death of my 15-year-old son would have been my demise. The Lord prepared my son in many ways prior to his death for what was about to take place. He also made sure that after Tyler’s death we were assured that my son was carried to his eternal home with his savior. My son did not lose his life that night; we lost ours. He just moved onto his perfect life!

Softcover [$14.95]



This is a book I wrote about Tyler's spiritual journey just prior to his death. It has been a work in progress for over a year now, but it is finally complete and available to purchase. Its a short read, less than 100 pages but it is a detailed account of the phenominal experience my son had just prior to his tragic death. If you are looking for answers to questions why? If you are need of comfort, or just the reassurance that God is in control of ALL things-this is a must read for you. It also introduces faith to those who may have lost it, or maybe never had it. Through all of my pain, grief, anguish and overall desperation since my son's death-I know that The Lord had his hand in Tyler's graduation to Heaven on 8/19/06, on that dark road, and I know that Tyler knew in some sense that his time was near and he made sure that we would know without a doubt that when he left us that night, he was lifted up by the arms of The Lord and taken to his eteral home-where he will dwell there with The Lord for eternity. I hope you will buy this book, and enjoy the comfort that The Lord Jesus Christ can and will bring to us through any and all trials and tribulations this life brings us.

This book is available through the following:

www.publishamerica.com

www.amazon.com

 

All proceeds from the sale of this book will be donated directly to childrens charities. St. Judes Children's Research Hospital, and the Make-A-Wish foundation.

Thank you and God bless!!

 

"Tyler's Law"-Keeeps Torch Burning for Andrew Tyle  
Tyler's law is now in effect after a Dacusville mother took up the torch in memory of her 15-year-old son, Andrew Tyler Durham.


"My husband and I, my entire family are overjoyed at the fact that we have a new law that's named after our son," said Erin Durham, Tyler's mother. "I think it's a legacy for him."

State Sen. Mike Fair, R-Greenville, said Tyler's law sets fines for parents and legal guardians who knowingly and willfully permit their dependants to operate vehicles without a permit or license or in violation of permit or license restrictions.

Fair, who sponsored the bill, said he knows the Durhams personally and said they asked him to help.

He said the hope is that it will help other families avoid similar tragedies.

"Being a parent, grandparent, it just is another weapon ... in the ongoing war with family members about why young people ought to do right anyway," Fair said. "It offers another encouragement to obey the law for young people."

Durham said the law's passage is bittersweet for her family after losing Tyler in a single-vehicle wreck in 2006, when the car in which he was riding went off the road and hit a tree.

The driver, who was a juvenile at the time, was charged with driving too fast for conditions and violation of restricted driver's license, according to Sid Gaulden, a spokesman for the state Department of Public Safety.

Now Durham said she hopes people will think twice before making irresponsible decisions about driving or allowing their children to drive vehicles in violation of the restrictions on their licenses.

"Accidents happen, and they can have devastating effects on not only that family but many, many people," she said.

Tyler had started his sophomore year at Pickens High School days before the fatal accident. He was always happy, smiling and full of energy, Durham said. He loved sports.

"We feel very hopeful that this law will potentially save many lives," Durham said. "Up until Tyler's law there was no law that held the parents or guardians accountable, responsible in any way for the actions of their underage children for driving vehicles."

"Tyler's Law"  
'Tyler's Law' Memorizes Young Car Crash Victim
By Michael Campbell
Staff Writer
Updated: July 9, 2008, 10 a.m.

DACUSVILLE — Tyler Durham was just 15 years old when he died in a car crash one August night in 2006.

His life ended on Little Pond Road in Dacusville, but his story continues two years later with the passage of legislation imposing a fine on parents or guardians who allow underage drivers to operate a motor vehicle without a valid license.

Young Tyler, a junior varsity football and baseball player for Pickens High School was attending a back-to-school sleepover and pizza party when a 15-year-old friend offered Tyler and another friend a ride around the block in his new Mercedes.

He was a passenger in the backseat when the young driver lost control of the car, which left the road and hit a group of trees. Tyler, who was the only one wearing a seat belt, died from blunt force trauma to the chest and head.

The driver had just gotten his restricted drivers license and was driving more than three hours after the 8 p.m. curfew when the accident happened.

After an investigation lasting several months, the driver of the vehicle was charged with “driving too fast for conditions” and “driving past curfew,” paid a small fine and was docked two points off his drivers license.

“We were astonished when we found this out,” said Erin Durham, Tyler’s mother. “We also learned that the parents of a minor could not be held liable for allowing a minor child to drive past curfew.”

Tyler’s parents and his grandfather, Bill Batson, began pushing for legislation to protect other children and their families from experiencing similar unnecessary tragedy.

Batson contacted S.C. State Sen. Mike Fair, who was a high school classmate who authored the legislation recently signed by Gov. Mark Sandford.

That new law makes parents more accountable for their children’s actions behind the wheel and institutes penalties for parents who knowingly allow their teenagers to violate drivers’ license restrictions.

The accident that claimed Tyler’s life happened just a block away from a baseball field where he often played. This baseball field, located at 183 Shoals Creek Church Road in Easley, has been named the Andrew Tyler Durham Memorial Field.

At the dedication Tyler’s younger brother Blake, wearing Tyler’s middle school jersey, threw out the ceremonial “first pitch” which was caught by their father Jody who was wearing Tyler’s baseball cap.

“In a twist of irony, Tyler was transported by ambulance to that very field after the accident so he could be medivaced by helicopter to Greenville memorial Hospital. He actually died in that helicopter as it sat in centerfield,” Tyler’s grandfather said.

Tyler also has been memorialized by a sportsmanship award — the ATD Take 10 Award — presented each year by Pickens High School football coaches. And students at the school formed a “Take 10” prayer group to meet 10 minutes each morning to have prayer, taking its name from Tyler’s football number.

Tyler’s family agrees that his most lasting legacy is his faith. “Tyler was a Christian who loved to share his faith with any and all — adults and kids alike,” his grandfather said.
When Gov. Mark Sanford signed his name to “Tyler’s Law” a couple of weeks ago, it closed a painful chapter to the story of young Tyler Durham.

But it opened the door to a legacy that will memorialize the young man for years to come by saving lives and establishing consequences for those who break the law.





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"Tyler's Law"  
Governor signs "Tyler's Law"
Published:
Wednesday, July 9, 2008 9:06 AM CDT
Law holds underage drivers, parents accountable for child's actions behind the wheel

By Jason Evans

Editor

jevans@pickenssentinel.com

STATE - A new law aims to keep car keys out of underage hands, hold parents accountable for when their child drives without permission, and keep tragedy off of South Carolina roadways.

Gov. Mark Sanford signed "Tyler's Law" into law June 17.

The law is named after Andrew Tyler Durham, a 15-year-old Pickens High School student who died in an accident in August 2006 involving a driver who was not supposed to driving.

"The law imposes stiffer penalties on underage drivers when they drive unlawfully, whether that's driving past curfew, driving without a license, etc.," said Erin Durham, Tyler's mother.

The law sees parents held accountable when their child drives unlawfully.

"It holds parents responsible for knowing allowing their child to drive unlawfully," Durham said.

Tyler Durham died after the driver of the car he was riding in lost control and the car struck three trees, Durham said.

He was pronounced dead at the scene.

Once the investigation into the accident that caused Durham's death was completed, the car's driver was only charged with driving too fast for conditions, Durham said.

The accident happened at 11:40 p.m., hours after the driver's curfew, Durham said.

"We were disappointed, we felt the parent's would be held liable." she said. "He had to pay a $100 fine. That's the price he had to pay for my son's life."

Tyler's parents wanted to help create a law that would help see that no one else had to experience what they experienced.

An old family friend stepped in to help them do just that - Sen. Mike Fair, R-Greenville.

"The law was his idea," Durham said. "When he found out about the accident and what charges could and could not be made, he approached us.

"He said, 'I want to introduce a law, a new law, and see what happens,'" Durham said.

As they researched issue, Durham and her family discovered that the state's traffic laws had not been revised or changed since 1976, Durham said.

"It was a change that definitely needed to be made and now it's named after our son," she said. It was way, way, way overdue.

"If you think about 1976, there was no cell phones back then, no texting, so much less distractions for drivers," she continued. "There are probably four or five times as many cars on the road now.

Tyler Durham was a popular student who loved sports, Durham said.

"He was a real happy, outgoing, friendly, popular kid," she said. "You couldn't ask for a better child. He was a good boy, a great person."

The accident took place about a quarter mile from a Shoals Creek Road baseball field where Durham often played as he worked his goal of becoming a college baseball player.

After the accident, the MediVac helicopter landed on that field.

Durham passed away as he was being moved from the ambulance onto the field.

Today, that field bears Tyler's name, she said.

"It's officially named Andrew Tyler Durham Memorial Field," she said.

Durham hopes the law named for her son saves lives.

"This law, it's out there now," she said. "Because of that, a decision might be made differently, not to allow your child to drive illegally, even a mile to get a gallon of milk. One small decision can have devastating effects on many, many people."





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Article by Doug Jolley!  
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:26 AM

Moving Story about Batcock's Grandson, Mega's Nephew, Tyler

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Signing of Tyler’s Law Closes Painful Chapter


By Doug Jolley
GamecockAnthem.com
Posted Jun 22, 2008



There are few things as precious in life as the time a grandfather gets to spend with his grandchildren. Bill Batson loved to take his grandson Tyler to Carolina home football games with him. When a senseless car accident took Tyler’s life, the Gamecock community rallied around him and his family. Now a law has been passed to prevent other families from suffering as Tyler's did.

It may start out as simply a message board for fans of a specific college team, but internet sites like GamecockAnthem.com gain a sense of community as people develop relationships online as they share their passion for their team; and while doing so, they share something about themselves as well. So it is not unusual to sign on to GamecockAnthem or other similar fan message boards and see a thread asking for prayer.

In August 2006, the Anthem community rallied around two of their own when the news of the tragic death of 15 year old Tyler Durham broke.

Bill Batson, better known online as “Batcock,” was Tyler’s grandfather. His aunt, Rosevelyn Cooper, better known as “Megacockfan,” is one of the more prolific Gamecock posters. Both made tributes to their lost loved one as a signature at the bottom of each post they make. Because both are so well known and loved on GamecockAnthem, the news of Tyler’s death hit the entire online community hard, and they poured out their love to them.

A teenage friend of Tyler’s had invited him to take a ride in his new car on that tragic night in August of 2006. The driver of the car was driving illegally at the time, because it was after the 8 pm curfew required by his restricted license. Tyler's mother, Erin Durham, said, "The driver was traveling at a high rate of speed and on an unfamiliar road and he lost control of the vehicle. She told the Pickens Sentinel, "If he had not been allowed by his parents to drive a vehicle after hours, then Tyler would not have been in that car. I think it's very important for parents to be held liable for the decisions they know their children are making."

Bill Batson was a high school classmate of South Carolina State Senator Mike Fair, and contacted him about drafting legislation to protect other children and their families from experiencing similar unnecessary tragedies. Fair sponsored the legislation which became known as Tyler’s Law, and in early June 2008, Governor Mark Sanford signed it into law. The new law makes parents more accountable for their children's actions behind the wheel, instituting penalties for parents who knowingly allow their teenagers to violate drivers’ license restrictions. Fair said, “There was a little place in the law like a nerve sticking out, and this bill attempts to cover it. I think underage kids driving can be a significant safety problem. This will make all of us think about our day to day activities, if done outside the law can have dire consequences.”

Tyler was a talented three sport athlete, playing football, basketball and baseball. Tyler was on the inaugural Dacusville Middle School baseball team in 2004 that went undefeated, 21-0, and won the conference championship. At the time of his death, Tyler was a member of the Pickens High School football and baseball teams. Pickens High School coaches gave out a sportsmanship award in his honor. "It just gives you a good feeling that people are going to remember him – (he's) not going to be forgotten," Batson told the Pickens paper.

The accident happened just a block away from the Pickens County baseball field he often played at. The baseball field was named at the beginning of this season in his honor, and is now known as “Andrew Tyler Durham Memorial Field,” which is located at 183 Shoals Creek Church in Easley. At the dedication, Tyler’s younger brother Blake threw out the ceremonial "first pitch" and his Dad Jody caught it. Blake was wearing Tyler's middle school jersey, and Jody was wearing Tyler's baseball cap. His grandfather said, “In a twist of irony, Tyler was transported by ambulance to this very field after the accident to be medivaced by helicopter to Greenville Memorial Hospital. He actually died as he was being place in the helicopter as it sat in centerfield.”



Tyler’s stated goal was to become a college baseball player, hopefully for the Gamecocks. His grandfather said he was small in stature, but big in heart. His grandfather is friends with former Gamecock assistant coach Jim Washburn, who is currently an assistant with the NFL’s Tennessee Titans. Washburn sent workout programs to Tyler and talked to him on the phone about them. Tyler "followed them to the letter,” according to his grandfather.

Batson said Tyler’s most lasting legacy would be his faith. He said, “Tyler was a Christian boy who loved to share his faith with any and all, adults and kids alike.” Senator Fair, talking of Tyler’s legacy, quoted Cory Ten Boom, who saved the lives of many from the Nazi atrocities in World War Two. “She said 'Joy runs deeper than despair,' and (Tyler's) family can give testimony to this."





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Tragic story, a life so full of promise cut short like that. I don't think one ever really gets over something like that.


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